Eleven years with MS has taught me that life is rarely good or bad in itself. It is uncertain, often answered only with “maybe.” Within that uncertainty, I have found clarity: to guard my time, honor my priorities, and live our family mission of Mostest.
Tag Archives: Leadership
Uncertainty Is Not the Enemy
Research shows that people often underestimate their resilience and overestimate the impact of uncertainty on well-being. While fear of the unknown, such as with multiple sclerosis, is common, uncertainty is a constant in life. Embracing this reality allows for better decision-making and adaptability, fostering resilience in the face of life’s unpredictability.
Conflict Avoidance? Nope, It Is Actually Ignorance & It Damages Relationships
In the past few weeks, the topic of avoiding conflict has come up more than once with people I coach or advise. Different people. Different contexts. Same theme. I am taking this as a sign to write about it—for myself, for those I work with, and especially for my kids one day. This is oneContinue reading “Conflict Avoidance? Nope, It Is Actually Ignorance & It Damages Relationships”
How A Lawsuit Forced Me To Be A Better Leader (and Less of a Dick-tator)
A lawsuit in 2012 prompted a shift from micromanagement to empowerment, highlighting the importance of trusting team members and focusing on strategic vision. This painful experience led to personal growth, improved leadership, and stronger organizational dynamics, ultimately fostering innovation and autonomy.
Why Productive Friction Is Essential for Stronger Teams, Marriages, and Families
Productive friction is essential for collaborative success in various contexts, distinguishing between tactical and relationship conflict. Tactical conflict fosters innovation and creativity by focusing on tasks, while relationship conflict disrupts productivity and trust. Encouraging constructive debate and maintaining focus on shared goals can enhance outcomes in both professional and personal settings.
Why I Started Blogging Again: A Journey Through Parenthood
The author reflects on the evolving parent-child relationship and their motivation to blog. Each parenting stage is likened to a driving metaphor, highlighting a shift from control to independence as children grow. Blogging serves as a legacy, allowing the author to share insights with their adult children while also learning from them.
Net Sum Zero vs. Non-Net Sum Zero: Two Fundamental Belief Systems
Beliefs shape our reality and influence success and relationships. There are two mindsets: Net Sum Zero (belief in scarcity) and Non-Net Sum Zero (belief in abundance). Net Sum Zero fosters competition and fear; Non-Net Sum Zero embraces mutual success and abundance. Examples from Star Wars and real life illustrate these mindsets. Align with abundance for personal and mutual growth.
You Aren’t Micro Managing. You Are Probably F*cking Bullying.
The author confesses to being a former micromanager and recovering bully. Micromanagers are likened to bullies due to their behavior and impact on others. They are explained through the concepts of “The Disguised Attitude” and “The Blind Attitude,” highlighting their insecurities and impact on team dynamics. The ideal leadership attitude, “The Confident Attitude,” is presented as the goal for effective leadership. Transitioning to this attitude requires a growth mindset and valuing contributions equally.
The Waiting Game: A Closer Look at In-Office Times
In healthcare, patients endure excessive waits, with 97% facing over 25 minutes of delay in 2022. This not only heightens anxiety but also erodes precious moments, especially for those with chronic conditions. The healthcare system’s inefficiency challenges professionals’ Hippocratic Oath commitment, creating an ethical dilemma. This post examines the impact of wait times on patient well-being and suggests steps toward a more efficient healthcare model.
The Devil’s Vortex: How To Kill Scaling & Your Soul
In the ever-evolving landscape of entrepreneurship and leadership, there lurks a hidden peril known as the “Devil’s Vortex.” This daunting phenomenon represents the overwhelming challenges and burnout that leaders and entrepreneurs often face, yet many step into it willingly, unaware of its subtle entrapment.
The Devil’s Vortex is more than just a metaphorical hazard; it’s a stark reality where one’s efforts seem to spiral into chaos, yielding minimal impact. In contrast, the “Genius Zone” offers a sanctuary of productivity and satisfaction, where one’s unique strengths and deepest passions intersect, creating a harmonious blend of success and fulfillment.